It is not uncommon for me to be asked by clients “What are my abilities?”, “When will they come out?”, “When will I be able to use them?” I tend not to answer these questions because there’s so much that is connected to our abilities that I believe needs attention first. And much of it is ignored or passed over by both the student and the teachers of abilities. Let me explain to you the why’s and how’s of what I am hinting at.
Where do abilities come from?
Some people may see abilities in a very different way than I do. I simply see them as natural tendencies or expressions that we have and may not realize. We may not realize what they are because it is something we do, a way that we are that is so innate in us, that we are almost unconscious of it. For example, have you ever had someone point out something you’re doing, that’s different than how they do it, and all you can think is “Doesn’t everybody do this?” That’s sort of how I’ve found out I was intuitive and connected to the deeper, soul level of life.
This didn’t happen until my early 40’s. I had a friend who had a small Wiccan shop and I would often stop I on a whim just to visit. One time, I literally said to her,”I wish I was intuitive”, feeling totally clueless as to how to get to being that. Her reply floored me and blew up the sense I had it myself, in a good way. She said, “Marianne, every time someone here has a question or an issue we can’t figure out, you show up with the answer!” At that moment, a light turned on inside me. That’s when I started seeing all the moments in my past that indicated this innate intuition and deep connection, all the way back to my earliest memories.
Simply said, abilities are what you already do instinctively, often without thinking. Abilities are, in my mind, part of the pure expression of your spirit, even if you have not mastered these yet or even if they are still dormant in you.
The wrong why for wanting to know your abilities
Most teachers of abilities don’t talk about what I’m going to say. Many schools and people teaching healing modalities and psychic abilities don’t get in to what I will tell you next. And I find that this is to the detriment of the learner.
Oftentimes, the reason someone wants to learn and develop special abilities is because they’re feeling loss or a void within themselves. Perhaps there is an empty sense in life, and they feeling ignored, rejected or basically deeply unhappy. From this state, some will be drawn to learn magical arts, psychic skills and so on because of the powerlessness that fills them internally. There are plenty of movies out there showing the damaging road that can take us down, so I’ll skip going into those details. They may want to take back control of their lives, of themselves. They may want to end the abuse they’re enduring. The person may even want revenge.
This is where we need to wind back the movie of life and go down a better and healthier road, before it starts to get nasty. I’ll put it simply for you: If you’re coming from a place of lack, uncertainty, feeling small within, or worse, anger and hatred, you are running the likelihood of distorting yourself and your abilities and worse, damaging those you are wanting to help. Using your abilities will be directed to some degree by those lenses. This could prevent you from having them be fully expressed for you and cause you more harm than good in the long run.
A well-known intuitive I studied with briefly, had developed her skill through an acute need to control a difficult family situation when she was very small. When I started to sense that in her, I stopped studying with her because I did not want to come from that place of control in developing my skills. I wanted them to be a positive and natural expression of me.
Build a Strong Foundation First
If you want to know and develop your abilities – good for you! Let me recommend a way to proceed so that they become true gifts for yourself and others. I’m going to make it about enhancing your brilliance and purity, and supporting your growth, mastery and evolution.
Put aside, just for now, the desire and need to know what your abilities are. This isn’t forever. This is just for now because it is about giving yourself a strong foundation first.
Take time to know and understand who you are and what makes you tick. In general, start exploring how are you ticking. This means looking at how you move through life, how you interact with others. Let’s say you reacted to something a friend said. Ponder why. Ask yourself where that reaction is coming from. Have you experienced that before? When and where? Dig down some more. Notice your patterns and clean those up. For more on this process, read my blog post entitles: This is Soo me! Absolutely Not Me! Recognizing You from Your Patterns. Decide to let go of the pattern that is showing up for you when it is not useful or productive. You can do this. This is about you after all and becoming a stronger, better you.
In your self-exploration, also take a look at why you want special abilities. How would it make you feel to have those abilities? You might want to write down what comes up. Eg: awesome, powerful, special, better than so-and-so, in control, happy, chosen, popular, just like so-and-so. If you are feeling anything other than completely neutral and curious about it, Bring that up. Face it and acknowledge it.
Now look at what you’ve written. What is the feeling you’ve written down taking you away from? Feeling lost, sad? Ignored? Out of control? That’s okay. Remember this is just something you are experiencing, not the true you. And actually say that to yourself too. Sit with it and acknowledge what shows up. Work through it as I explained above. If you do need more help with what is coming up, seek it!
Please note: If you are experiencing severe loss and are having difficulty moving through the process, get yourself the support to do so. Seek out professional help if you’re not able to hold onto yourself or onto current physical reality, in order to keep yourself stable. Keep yourself safe and taken care of.
Become strong in love and appreciation for yourself and for who you are. Find the strength and support for your own self within first. With this inner strength already established, anything that you choose to experience, develop, learn, do, Will enhance your brilliance and that already established strong sense of self. You can’t go wrong with this foundation!
Discovering your abilities more organically
By going through the process I’ve described above, you may have already discovered an ability or two that you’ve had up your sleeve and didn’t realize. Uncovering your abilities becomes a game of discovering who you are and what your spirit’s natural expression and gifts are. Doesn’t that sound like a lot more fun?
Examine more closely what you do naturally, even automatically. What is it that you get counted on by others because you do it so much more easily. Do you get a sense someone will need X thing before they even ask for it? Maybe an inner knowing of what is physically wrong before the doctor has figured it out pops into your mind. My grandma was like that, diagnosing better than doctors with only a midwife’s training. Do you know when something is going to happen before it is anticipated? Can you organize an optimal layout for an article in five minutes when it takes others five days? Can you tell when someone is being dishonest even when no one else picks up on it? Notice yourself and notice how you naturally moved through life.
Something else you can do is see what you are drawing to learning. where is your thirsty curiosity leading you? This is a how I started my journey doing frequency and energy work. I simply was curious. I wanted to learn more about it. And I just started learning and doing on my own, wanting to go deeper into that field before it came up that this was my calling.
Uncover your abilities by discovering who you are. Have fun with it and simply be curious about what you find. Don’t get caught up in attaching meaning to it. Just let it be what it is, let it be natural. In this manner of doing, you may pick up some abilities you would have never thought of! Open up to discovering yourself in wanting to know your abilities. We are often more fantastic beings than we think we are. And abilities are just a fraction of that incredibleness!
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